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Is your relationship as soul-satisfying as you want it to be?
Do you feel deeply connected with your partner and that there’s nobody else on the planet you’d rather be with?
Or do you sometimes look at your partner and wonder where your excited feelings have gone?
Have you lost the motivation you once had to make plans together and envision a future?
Do you ask yourself (more often than you’d like to admit) whether this person is even right for you? Do you sometimes fantasize about what it would be like to break up and start over with someone new?
These are important feelings you need to pay attention to. Because in a truly connected relationship, you should feel very happy with your partner.
You should feel free to be yourself while also have a burning desire to be with your partner.
This isn’t pie-in-the-sky thinking – you really should feel powerfully in tune with your beloved.
You should feel deeply understood and appreciated. You should feel as if you’re right where you want to be.
If you don’t, I want to give you a very specific tip in this message that is going to make a world of difference in how you feel about your partner.
I’m going to be asking you to try something you may not have thought about yet. Something that has the power to transform your relationship into your dream partnership.
But before I give you this tip, I want something from you.
You Can’t Play The Game If You’re Not In It
It may be tempting to think about what life would be like without your partner.
Your mind may run away with fantasies about what it would be like to bump into someone new and begin all over again.
But after counseling hundreds of couples and singles, I can tell you that most people who think they’ve picked the wrong partner are wrong.
You can break up with your partner and move onto someone new, and in two years you’ll be feeling the same kind of ambivalent feelings you’re having right now.
Because people in unhappy relationships tend to repeat their problems. It’s not the partner that’s the problem, it’s something else.
When I work with couples, I first ask them to make a renewed commitment to their partner.
This is the only way to determine whether or not a relationship can actually work. Otherwise, having one foot out the door will practically guarantee your current relationship can’t be saved – and that you’ll repeat your negative pattern with the next partner.
So do I have your commitment? If so, now I want to give you that specific tip that’s going to change everything.
A Major Reason Couples Become Disconnected
When one of my patients tells me he or she is struggling in their relationship, I ask them a very telling question:
“How honest are you with your partner?”
And I mean honest about everything:
Have you held anything back from your partner?
Do you open up to him or her the way you do to a trusted friend?
When you’ve been hurt, do you speak up about it, or do you withhold affection?
Have you told your partner how you really feel about your relationship?
Time and time again, I’ve found that when a couple is in trouble, one or both partners are hiding their truth.
Are you afraid of telling your partner what’s really in your heart and soul?
There are many reasons why you might be. You may fear that if your partner really hears what’s on your mind and really knows what you’re about, that he or she will pull away or leave.
But my experience tells me otherwise.
One Move That Ignites Passion, Devotion, And Intimacy
Telling the truth is the most powerful thing you can do to revive a dying relationship.
And it’s the only thing that will keep it alive and thriving.
When you heroically embrace your fear and tell your partner your unadulterated truth, you break down an enormous wall.
Because not being authentic creates a barrier – one that gets bigger over time.
Not telling the truth is like slow poison for a relationship.
If you’ve withheld your truth from your partner, the wall between the two of you may be wide.
You’ll feel the disconnection in every interaction. And even when they’re in the room with you, you’ll feel alone.
But even though the wall is wide, it can be toppled. And the way to do that is with TRUTH.
I’ve seen miraculous transformations when even one partner bravely opens up about his or her truth. The wall comes down and intimacy comes rushing back.
It takes courage and guidance to be truthful – and to share the kind of truth that can revive a seemingly dead relationship.
When you subscribe to my free relationship advice newsletter, I’ll teach you everything I’ve discovered about dating and relationships after having counseled couples and singles for over 40 years, including:
- How to reignite the intimacy, passion, and devotion in your relationship – even if one or both of you has been thinking about calling it quits
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- How to keep the passion and excitement alive well past the “honeymoon phase”
- Secrets of creating true intimacy – the kind of bond that acts as a “super glue” for your relationship
Today, try telling your partner something you’ve been holding back.
Maybe it’s as simple as, “I’d really love a good kiss from you” or as scary as “I’m really worried about us.”
Then see what happens.
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Who is Dr. Randi?
In my 40 years as a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor, I’ve helped people understand why their relationships start out euphoric only to crumble, and what skills they need for lasting love.
The greatest obstacles between you and the love you want is often right before your eyes, but hard to see on your own. My specialty is to help you look at your relationships with heroic honesty, so you can affect powerful change.
My husband and I have practiced this every day for over 60 years, and nothing could be sweeter or more transformative. I know I can create radical change in you too, if you are willing to go on this exciting adventure.
What is Heroic Love?
True, lasting love can only come from partners who are willing to be heroic. They dare to be authentic, they commit fiercely to their love, and they embrace transformative change.
Like any hero’s journey, there will be challenges to overcome, demons to battle, and hearts to save. But, like a flower coming up through asphalt, love that is earned is all the more precious for the effort it took.
Heroic love isn’t boring, or taken for granted, or dishonest. It is the kind of love you commit to every day, both because you treasure it enormously, and because it is the agent of adventure, excitement and fulfillment in your life. Who you are, how you grow, becomes perfectly entwined with the heart of another. You are both stronger as individuals, and as a team.
It is the sweetest, and most beautiful, of rewards.