- Keep the fires burning well past the “Honeymoon Phase”
- Create a foundation that’s built to last
- Make sure your relationship never gets boring
- Attract and identify your perfect partner
- My #1 Rule for lasting love
Is He A Keeper? Here’s How To Tell
You probably have a pretty good idea of the kind of person you’re attracted to. If you met a guy who had similar interests to you, and the physical attraction was there, you’d likely feel you finally found someone you “clicked” with.
But how many times have you met someone you clicked with initially… only to be disappointed later on?
This brings us to an important question: what exactly makes a man an ideal life partner for you?
How do you know if your boyfriend or the man sitting across from you on a date can create with you the kind of relationship you deserve?
How do you know if you’ll be able to lean on him during difficult times, if he’ll have your back, and if he’ll work with you to resolve the challenges any couple will face?
What elevates him from just a fun date to a mate in heart, body, mind, and soul?
You don’t want just a date or a boyfriend, you want a “keeper” – someone who will be a true partner to you, for the long haul.
Is Your Date A Keeper?
Keepers exhibit a set of beliefs, actions, and ideals that keep relationships thriving through the good times and the bad. This doesn’t mean you need to compromise on physical attraction or other qualities that are important to you. It means that when you find someone you do click with, you’ll want to make sure they also have the qualities of a keeper:
Keeper Trait #1: They’re self-accountable
Keepers are not afraid to question themselves. They clearly put knowledge ahead of ego-preservation, and seek ways to help their relationships stay successful. They ask themselves what they could do to change them for the better. They are not out to win at their partner’s expense.
Yet keepers don’t automatically give up their point of view when challenged. You know them by their combination of ego, strength and flexibility. They not only hold their integrity under fire, but also expect that kind of behavior from people they respect.
Keeper Trait #2: They see humor as a sacred part of relationships
People who find the humor in life are more resilient to disappointments. They don’t laugh inappropriately or use humor to mock, but they do maintain perspective that keeps them aware.
Yet they also have a keen sense of perspective, and don’t use humor to lighten up situations that need to stay serious.They have learned the value of timing and a compassionate heart, and can process sorrow and joy with the same gentle appreciation for life.
Keeper Trait #3: They’re authentic
Keepers feel responsible for what they say or do. They don’t pretend to be someone they are not, or automatically agree with something that they don’t. They want to be transparent because they don’t play games nor want to participate in any.
They’d rather hear the truth from others, too, even if it’s uncomfortable. Keepers choose partners who value them for their honesty. They don’t take that right lightly, nor do they use their authenticity to unnecessarily point out other’s faults.
Keeper Trait #4: They seek continuous transformation
Keepers are committed to learning from the past and projecting the future more effectively. To do that, they willingly seek constant new ways of seeing their lives unfold. They learn from their mistakes and believe in their dreams.
Most people will choose security and predictability over challenge or change. Keepers successfully blend the two. They cherish traditions but always search for better ways to help themselves and others. This way of being makes them interesting and exciting to be around.
The Secret To Attracting A Keeper
Go back and re-read the keeper qualities above.
Now ask yourself: “Do I embody these qualities myself?”
If the answer is yes, congratulations. Because the way to bring a keeper into your life is to live these qualities yourself!
The next step is presenting yourself in the dating market in a way that will let others know you’re a keeper.
In my eBook Heroic Love, I’ll teach you how to do just that. You’ll learn the best strategy for zeroing-in on your ideal partner – including the 5 important questions you should ask a new partner to help you gauge whether he is emotionally ready for a relationship. His answers might open the door for the most intimate conversation you’ve ever had – and dramatically deepen the bond you share.
I’ll help you cut to the chase and save valuable time so you can start spending your time in the relationship you deserve.
And if you’re feeling disappointed because you don’t possess some or all of the keeper qualities, here’s the great news: now you know what you need to do to get off the dating merry-go-round.
For even more advice on how to be smart when it comes to dating to zero-in on the right partner for you and create the right foundation for lasting love, subscribe to receive my free relationship advice newsletter (below). You’ll also learn:
- A simple shift in mindset that will dramatically increase the level of intimacy you share with a partner
- How to tell if your relationship could be headed for trouble – and how to avert further damage and get back on track
- What and how much you should tell a partner when it comes to tricky subjects – and how to create an unshakeable foundation of honesty and trust
- The real reason why so many relationships fail – and how to make your next relationship the one that sticks
- Why breaking up is often a big mistake and not the answer to relationship dissatisfaction – you’ll learn how you can turn your current relationship into the one you’ve always longed for
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Who is Dr. Randi?
In my 40 years as a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor, I’ve helped people understand why their relationships start out euphoric only to crumble, and what skills they need for lasting love.
The greatest obstacles between you and the love you want is often right before your eyes, but hard to see on your own. My specialty is to help you look at your relationships with heroic honesty, so you can affect powerful change.
My husband and I have practiced this every day for over 60 years, and nothing could be sweeter or more transformative. I know I can create radical change in you too, if you are willing to go on this exciting adventure.
What is Heroic Love?
True, lasting love can only come from partners who are willing to be heroic. They dare to be authentic, they commit fiercely to their love, and they embrace transformative change.
Like any hero’s journey, there will be challenges to overcome, demons to battle, and hearts to save. But, like a flower coming up through asphalt, love that is earned is all the more precious for the effort it took.
Heroic love isn’t boring, or taken for granted, or dishonest. It is the kind of love you commit to every day, both because you treasure it enormously, and because it is the agent of adventure, excitement and fulfillment in your life. Who you are, how you grow, becomes perfectly entwined with the heart of another. You are both stronger as individuals, and as a team.
It is the sweetest, and most beautiful, of rewards.