- Keep the fires burning well past the “Honeymoon Phase”
- Create a foundation that’s built to last
- Make sure your relationship never gets boring
- Attract and identify your perfect partner
- My #1 Rule for lasting love
4 Signs He’s Worthy Of Being Your Husband
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This is an exciting message, because we’re going to talk about your future husband.
It might seem hard to get your head around this, especially if you’ve been single for a while and have had lots of ups and downs in your search for love.
You’ve heard so much advice, put yourself “out there”, and have tried to keep an open mind. But as a marriage and family therapist for the past 40 years, I’m going to give you a very different take on what makes a good husband.
You see, I’ve counseled many, many couples. After all these years, I now know the magic ingredients that make for a good husband. If some of my women clients had known about these ingredients before, they might have made different choices and married a man who was better able to create a healthy relationship.
Your Future Husband: The Big Questions
How many times have you met someone you clicked with initially… only to be disappointed later on?
How do you know if your boyfriend or the man sitting across from you on a date can create with you the kind of relationship you deserve?
How do you know if you’ll be able to lean on him during difficult times, if he’ll have your back, and if he’ll work with you to resolve the challenges any couple will face?
What elevates him from just a fun date to a mate in heart, body, mind, and soul?
You don’t want just a date or a boyfriend, you want a “keeper” – someone who will be a true partner to you, for the long haul.
Is Your Date A Keeper?
Keepers exhibit a set of beliefs, actions, and ideals that keep relationships thriving through the good times and the bad.
This doesn’t mean you need to compromise on physical attraction or other qualities that are important to you. It means that when you find someone you do click with, you’ll want to make sure they also have the qualities of a keeper:
Keeper Trait #1: He's self-accountable
A Keeper is not afraid to question himself. He’ll get his ego out of the way in order to listen to you, reflect on his behavior, and ask himself what he can do to make your relationship better. He’ll never set out to win at your expense – he’d rather be happy with you than be right.
Yet he’s not a doormat – he won’t automatically give up his point of view when you challenge him. He’ll hold his integrity under fire, but he’ll also expect the same from you.
Keeper Trait #2: He appreciates the humor in life and relationships
Men who find the humor in life are more resilient to disappointments. He won’t laugh inappropriately or use humor to mock, but he maintains a healthy sense of perspective and can laugh at himself.
He has learned the value of timing and has a compassionate heart – he knows when to be serious as well as when to cheer you up with a good joke. His willingness to appreciate the ups and downs of relationships – without getting too serious about it – makes you feel safe.
Keeper Trait #3: He’s authentic
Keepers feel responsible for what they say or do. He won’t pretend to be someone he’s not, or automatically agree with something that doesn’t feel right.
He wants to be transparent because he doesn’t play games.
He’d rather hear the truth from you, too, even if it’s uncomfortable. Keepers choose partners who value them for their honesty. He doesn’t take that right lightly, nor will he use his authenticity to unnecessarily point out other’s faults.
Keeper trait #4: He never wants to stop learning and growing
Keepers are committed to learning from the past and projecting the future more effectively. To do that, he will willingly seek to learn from his mistakes and reach for his dreams.
Most people will choose security and predictability over challenge or change. Keepers successfully blend the two.
He will cherish traditions but always search for better ways to help himself and others. This way of being makes him ever interesting and exciting to be around.
Take A Shortcut To Finding Your Husband
I don’t want you to waste anymore time finding the love of you life.
Making sure you find the man who will create the relationship you want – with you – involves three key steps:
- Being able to separate the guys who are capable of real love and partnership from those who will never be able to sustain the kind of relationship you want
- Understanding what you have to offer your future husband – and what you can do now to embody the qualities that will attract the right man to you
- Learning the skills that are critical to creating and sustaining a relationship that is based on authenticity, commitment, and intimacy
When you subscribe to my free relationship advice newsletter, I’ll teach you everything I’ve discovered about dating and relationships after having counseled couples and singles for over 40 years, including:
- How to zero in on your ideal partner and attract real, lasting love into your life
- How to keep the passion and excitement alive well past the “honeymoon phase”
- How to build an unshakable foundation of trust so your relationship can weather the ups and downs of life
- Secrets of creating true intimacy – the kind of bond that acts as a “super glue” for your relationship
- How to make your partner feel deeply understood and accepted so that he or she never wants to leave
To create a deeply satisfying, long-term relationship, you need to start with the right ingredients. It’s my mission to help you create Heroic Love, starting right now.
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Who is Dr. Randi?
In my 40 years as a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor, I’ve helped people understand why their relationships start out euphoric only to crumble, and what skills they need for lasting love.
The greatest obstacles between you and the love you want is often right before your eyes, but hard to see on your own. My specialty is to help you look at your relationships with heroic honesty, so you can affect powerful change.
My husband and I have practiced this every day for over 60 years, and nothing could be sweeter or more transformative. I know I can create radical change in you too, if you are willing to go on this exciting adventure.
What is Heroic Love?
True, lasting love can only come from partners who are willing to be heroic. They dare to be authentic, they commit fiercely to their love, and they embrace transformative change.
Like any hero’s journey, there will be challenges to overcome, demons to battle, and hearts to save. But, like a flower coming up through asphalt, love that is earned is all the more precious for the effort it took.
Heroic love isn’t boring, or taken for granted, or dishonest. It is the kind of love you commit to every day, both because you treasure it enormously, and because it is the agent of adventure, excitement and fulfillment in your life. Who you are, how you grow, becomes perfectly entwined with the heart of another. You are both stronger as individuals, and as a team.
It is the sweetest, and most beautiful, of rewards.